- QUESTION: How do I deal with resenting someone for constantly taking advantage of my kindness?
- ANSWER: Here is a bigger question right back at you!
1. Are you being more kind to that person than being kind to yourself and keeping a boundary on what you are really willing and want to do or doing it with a motive?
When we are resentful we can look at ourselves first. Perhaps we gave too much and had an expectation that the person would greatly appreciate or return a favor.
True giving is a gift of love, which is authentic and in simplest form, means I give only because I want to without expecting something in return. Yes, it's so darn hard to look at ourselves before blaming another but that is where our power to change exists.