QUESTION: How can I get a better attitude about the upcoming holiday season? I am dreading it all.
No need for this! See below...
RESPONSE: Surprise, you are allowed to quit cold turkey! IF the usual pace or activities are not really the way you want to spend your time you can create a better way going forward. First get quiet and check in with YOU. What specifically is a a downer for you and what changes can you make? What would be more meaningful, fun, or peaceful? Perhaps this means saying thanks for the invite but we are having a quiet day at home or we are going to switch things up. IMPORTANT: You are not responsible for their reaction!! YOU are responsible for your part, how you speak your truth in an honest, kind way.
If you want a different outcome here is a simple formula.
What do you WANT overall + then SPEAK UP/ ASK others + PLAN it = OUTCOME you want
Example: Start with the overall feeling you want: simplicity, excitement or relaxation then go from there.
Let me know how it goes:)